Gross. I got similar comments growing up and it always made me feel so gross. It's so fucked up. The boys and men making the comments should have felt gross, not me. Bleugh,.
I've never heard that song Lips Are Unhappy before, Lauren – thanks for the link.
It is a real challenge to "not" be triggered by things that remind us of our own adolescent hang-ups. (And no wonder one of yours was lips, from the way you describe it.)
When my now-adult daughters were children, I was terrified I'd somehow pass my former neuroses about food and body image onto them. I did everything I could to make food "neutral" and not to make value judgements on bodies. Amazingly, they did have a healthy attitude to food and to their bodies, growing up. At least, a lot more healthy than I'd had.
It sounds like you're responding really sensibly. I'm sure your daughter will benefit from that and learn resilience.
Yes, I’m also very conscious about the body and food issues too. Yet another challenge, hey! I’ve become so conscious of how much we comment on food and bodies recently- it’s really surprised me.
I have two (now adult) children. I had very little idea how to parent during the pre-teen and teen years — mostly because I remember being me at that age.
Gross. I got similar comments growing up and it always made me feel so gross. It's so fucked up. The boys and men making the comments should have felt gross, not me. Bleugh,.
It is gross. And the more I reflect, the more gross I realise it is. Definitely fucked up. Sorry that it’s been your experience too.
is there anyone who didn’t have this experience?? :(((
Probably just the boys?
that’s a very depressing thought
I've never heard that song Lips Are Unhappy before, Lauren – thanks for the link.
It is a real challenge to "not" be triggered by things that remind us of our own adolescent hang-ups. (And no wonder one of yours was lips, from the way you describe it.)
When my now-adult daughters were children, I was terrified I'd somehow pass my former neuroses about food and body image onto them. I did everything I could to make food "neutral" and not to make value judgements on bodies. Amazingly, they did have a healthy attitude to food and to their bodies, growing up. At least, a lot more healthy than I'd had.
It sounds like you're responding really sensibly. I'm sure your daughter will benefit from that and learn resilience.
You can’t be in a grumpy mood with this song!
Yes, I’m also very conscious about the body and food issues too. Yet another challenge, hey! I’ve become so conscious of how much we comment on food and bodies recently- it’s really surprised me.
Thank you for the encouragement Wendy!
I have two (now adult) children. I had very little idea how to parent during the pre-teen and teen years — mostly because I remember being me at that age.
Good to know that wiser people than I were also clueless when it came to parenting pre-teens 😂 Thanks Ragged Clown.